No chill ? YES, Chill .

    We all know that time waits for no one , so using it efficiently would be our best bet . But when we're told to use it wisely, do you ever connect it with swiftly? I have a terrible habit of rushing things because I'm afraid of missing an "opportunity " or feeling like I'm being stagnant. We waste some of our most precious time thinking too far ahead and not living in the moment. 

  Think of how many times you've been in the presence of friends and although you were there in physical form , mentally , you were plotting your next move . It seems so harmless but in reality, you're missing out on the essence of what the moment is. 

 Quality Time-  time spent in giving another your UNDIVIDED ATTENTION in order to strengthen a relationship. 

  I will be the first to admit that my phone has actually grown attached to my hand 👀. No , but seriously it's not cute . In my opinion , our phones (and its apps) has been the #1 killer of time in our generation. You go out -you're taking selfies - , eating dinner -you're recording from the moment your plate is sat down , until they refill your water glass! Does anyone ever not do this ? Don't sit here and lie either , I've seen your instagrams . We get so excited about sharing what we're doing with everyone else , were not enjoying the moment being shared with the person sitting directly across from you. (Mmhmm, ponder on that. Bask in it)  We have to start taking these behind the scenes moments and allowing them to be memorable on their own , and letting the pictures and ig videos be the highlight reels of our night . So in the words of Dolly Parton "put the phone down !" (Don't quote me on that) 

  TAKE YOUR TIME (Chris Brown voice) 

  

  There's no better feeling than the start of something new. Oddly enough, we fail to notice that GOD will change the game but allow us to approach the field with the same method . Repetition is happening all around us ! Slowing down and actually using some private time will actually allow you to analyze whatever "game" you're in , and realizing that you've experienced something very similar before. I encourage everyone , from the entrepreneurs to the full time student to allow themselves to really listen, and understand all that's going on around you. You've been here before right ? Not physically but mentally. 

Deja (no loaf) Vu .- allows us to feel as if we've already been in the moment we're experiencing.  Which in all actuality you have ! You have all the tools and knowledge to get through whatever it is that you're facing . You have to first ignore the stresses , and all of the negativity. Then really think about how you got through your previous engagement. What could you use in this moment , and what could you do without? 

  This same method works within the dating world also. What  was unsuccessful and why? Use your past as a crutch to help you be aware of what this person is offering and if it's at all beneficial to your needs. And vice versa ! Putting effort and time into getting to know someone without moving so fastly will be your greatest move to make. Imagine this: By taking your time , you're actually allowing yourself to save wasted time . 

BOOM ! Mind blown ..